Sex therapist Vanessa Marin says these habits can easily ruin intimacy

A relationship expert has explained four key things you should absolutely never do in the bedroom with your partner — because they can instantly kill the mood and damage intimacy.

There’s no official rulebook for navigating relationships, but there are definitely some things that can help keep the spark alive and the connection strong.

And when it comes to what happens in the bedroom, how you behave can make all the difference. One sex therapist is now warning that doing just four specific things during those moments of intimacy can really affect the connection between you and your partner.

Vanessa Marin, a California-based sex therapist, has built a following of nearly one million people on social media by offering candid and helpful advice about sex and relationships.

In one of her videos, Marin highlighted four things she says you should never do in the bedroom. She captioned the clip with: "After two decades in the sex therapy field and working with thousands of couples, there are certain things that I will not be doing in our relationship."

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Husband taking the lead

Marin started by sharing that she makes a conscious choice to not rely on her partner to always be the one initiating things, just because he’s the man.

While research has shown that men are often the ones who initiate intimacy in relationships, Marin stressed that taking turns and having both partners take the lead can help create a more balanced, exciting, and ultimately happier relationship.

Guilt

There are times when one partner simply isn’t in the mood, and that’s perfectly normal. Marin shared that she never tries to make her partner feel guilty if he’s not feeling up to it.

Another therapist, Azizeh Rezaiyan, echoed this advice. She told the Mail: "It's easy to read into things, assuming your partner is cheating, or not attracted to you, but that's not a rabbit hole worth going into."

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Communication

Being able to communicate openly and clearly with your partner is key to building a healthy relationship — and that includes what happens in the bedroom.

Marin explained that she always speaks up about her desires, even if there’s a risk it might make her partner uncomfortable. She believes that open and honest communication is the way to go.

After all, honesty really is the best policy when it comes to this.

Blame game

It’s completely normal for things to sometimes go wrong in the bedroom. Marin said she is mindful to never make her partner feel ashamed or blame him if there are performance issues.

She also added that she avoids crying or making accusations in those situations, as this only adds more unnecessary pressure to an already sensitive moment.